My birthday and New Years Eve are just one day apart. Because of that, I spend the last two days of every year looking backwards and forwards – not so much on my accomplishments or lack thereof, but wondering where the New Year will take me.
I don’t ever remember having big dreams about things that I wanted to achieve by a certain age. Perhaps it’s the pessimist in me, or perhaps it stemmed from my brother Phillip’s life cut short way too soon. But whatever the reason, I have lived most of my adult life moving along day-to-day and just hoping to get to that next special moment healthy and happy and surrounded by my family and friends.
As an example, when I was pondering a new job about a decade ago, my Mum looked at me and deadpanned: “By this age you should be president of a company.” I knew she meant it in a good way, but I just couldn’t relate. I never aspired to be the president of a company. While the idea of traveling the world sounded exciting, I didn’t want to manage dozens of people, or spend long hours at work and then have to work some more when my kids were asleep. And if anyone asked me about my hopes and aspirations, I was serious when I replied: “To meet my grandchildren. Other than that, it’s one day at a time.”
They say that age is something that doesn’t matter unless you are cheese. And wisdom doesn’t necessarily come with age – sometimes age just shows up all by itself! Still, we have birthdays. When I complained to a friend recently about getting older, she was all too wise: “Don’t say OMG. Be thankful you made it to celebrate another year!”
So as I turn another older and get set to usher in lucky 2013, here are the Top Five Tips I wish I could have given my 20-year-old self:
- Live for you, not for everyone else – Don’t worry what other people think. Work at something you enjoy instead of what’s expected of you. Surround yourself by people who love you rather than trying to be everybody’s friend. Dress in something that makes you feel happy and sexy. And don’t forget to smile – as someone once told me, “It’s sometimes your best revenge!”
- Hakol B’Zmano – That’s Hebrew for “Everything in its time.” Often things don’t pan out as we had hoped they would. Bad things happen to good people – and some get more than their fair share – but somehow we put one foot in front of the other and keep going. Tomorrow is another day, and things always look brighter in the daylight.
- Keep working those abs – You can only hold your stomach in for so many years. Bless you, Spandex jeans!
- There’s a fine line between being nice and being stupid – You can’t please everyone. Enough said.
- Choose a man with kind eyes – I agreed to a first date with my man only because I trusted his sister and I had nothing better to do that Saturday night. I was initially pulled in by his charm and devilish grin, but I stayed because of his warmth, his confidence, his generosity, and his very kind eyes. He’s every girl’s dream. Lucky me!
Aging seems to be the only way to live a long life, so it’s time for a new attitude. As I celebrate my birthday and look ahead to a new year, I’m psyched for 2013. I’m not over the hill but on top of the mountain, looking out and excited at what’s to come. So break out some more of the bubbly and let’s get on with the show!
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